Buffet sex with Marika Smith: The 5 best tips to nurture and awaken desire - Part 3/3

In the earlier parts of our interview with Marika Smith, we have explored how desire and intimacy are affected during different life phases. Marika, author of the book Buffésex – the new way of having sex that changes EVERYTHING, has shared what this concept means and how it can reshape our view of sexuality. Buffésex promotes an individual and adaptable approach to sexual pleasure, where each person explores and chooses from a "buffet" of possibilities for desire. In this part, Marika gives us practical and concrete advice not only to awaken desire but also to nurture it through life's changing stages.

HAVE YOU NOT READ PARTS 1 AND 2? START HERE!

For a complete picture of Marika Smith's thoughts on desire, self-love, and intimacy, don't miss reading the earlier parts of the interview:
👉 Read part 1 here
👉 Read part 2 here

1. SEE DESIRE AS SOMETHING BIGGER THAN SEX – AS PART OF YOUR IDENTITY 

"Desire is not just about sexual activity, but about all forms of pleasure and personal development. It is a way to understand who you are and what place you have in the world. Desire gives space for your identity. If you see your longing for desire as a longing to live, the pressure to perform decreases. Then it is less about the question 'Do I have a great sex life or not?' and more about 'Am I a pleasure-seeking person or not?'"

2. SET ASIDE TIME AND ENERGY FOR DESIRE – AND GET TO KNOW YOUR BODY

"Prioritize your desire and find out how your body and sexuality work. I don't just mean exploring the body with sex toys, but really understanding how your body functions. Did you know, for example, that detailed knowledge about the clitoris didn't become widely known until 2005? There is constantly new research about women's sexuality, and there is much to catch up on. Read up, listen to podcasts, and ask your doctor questions, especially if medications affect your desire or your mucous membranes. Daring to talk about it and allowing it to take time from other things is a way to show yourself that this is important."

3. TALK MORE ABOUT DESIRE – WITH FRIENDS, PARTNER, AND YOURSELF

"We need to talk more about desire! Not just at home, but also in everyday life. It doesn't have to be detailed conversations about sex, but can be about pleasure in general. For example, ask: 'How does the sun feel warming your skin?' or 'What makes you feel pleasure?' By opening up for such conversations, you show both yourself and others that this is something that deserves space."

4. ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS – AND CHECK IN WITH WHAT YOUR BODY WANTS 

"Ask yourself: What does my body want right now? How does it feel when I get what I long for? We can't always have everything we want, but when we do – allow yourself to truly enjoy it. It can be small things like stretching properly, feeling the sun on your skin, or eating something you really crave. Set aside time that is just about pleasure, in any form."

5. MASTURBATE – WITH THE WHOLE BODY 

"Masturbation is so much more than just touching the genitals to reach orgasm. All touch that feels pleasurable is masturbation. Slowly applying a luxurious cream, running fingers through hair, or gently stroking your own arm – all of that is masturbation. It's about giving yourself a dose of the cuddle hormone oxytocin and the wonderful endorphins that make us feel good. You don't have to have a goal or an orgasm in sight; it's about training the body to feel pleasure. It's a powerful way to open up to feelings of desire of all kinds."

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DO YOU WANT TO GET IN TOUCH WITH MARIKA?

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Take care of yourself & Stay Pussytive ❤️

/Fanny Falkman Grinndal
Business Manager Nordics
Peptonic Medical AB
fanny.falkman-grinndal@peptonicmedical.se